I get it!

I get how my mom felt when girls were mean to me...
I get how other mom's did not like me when I was mean to their child....
I get how my junior high boyfriend's mom still hates me to this day for making her son cry....

I GET IT!!!!

Last night while laying with Lily in her bed she told me that one of her "friends" was very mean to her at school.  She said that when she was trying to play with this girl and her friends that this girl turned and told Lily to stop following them and that they don't like her and don't want to play with her.

My heart sank!  I hate this for her, and I hate this for me.  I was so mad last night that I cried.  I know I cry about a lot, but I don't ever want my child to feel this way.  I can not protect her while she is at school and that makes it hard for me.  I can simply tell her that I think that she is wonderful and that those other girls are silly.

Lils does have a new friend.  She has been talking about her for months.  Mike and I had begun to think that Lucy was a make believe friend of Lily's.  But, yesterday I MET LUCY!  Lily went running up to her after school and they both hugged (mind you they had been picking flowers together at recess 3 minutes before this).  I said, "oh you are Lucy, Lily talks about you all of the time"  she said, "well Lily is my best friend".  My heart smiled to know that someone thinks of Lily as their best friend, even if it is only for a minute.

This is going to be a long road of raising 2 girls.  I know how nasty girls can be to one another, I was once one of those nasty girls.  I can not even imagine how many feelings I hurt in the past, and I will be forever sorry for that.

One day at a time.....

McF